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HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL MEMBERS!
It is winter outside,
but you didn’t need me to tell you that! This winter has been especially
challenging – and I think I now know the definition of the term “icy cold.”
On King day, which was a balmy 50 degrees, Ken and I went for a walk at the beach.
We were joined by many other people out running and walking their dogs, but of course the beach itself is closed. There are no coffee shops or ice cream stands open.
People have their Christmas ornaments still on their lawn. (Note to self: next year I want the blow-up Santa in the Hawaiian shirt with the surfboard!). It is during a stretch of bleak, dreary days that I say to my husband, “I hate
winter – let’s move to
FROM THE INSIDE
We've been talking about family recently and a few people even submitted their thoughts on the idea of what family means to them. Please take the time to read them as they all have something very touching to say. I hope that everyone takes the time to be with their family, not just for this last week of January, but always. Family is precious, through good times and bad, family is that vital part of our lives. For me family is the most important part of my life. My mom is my best friend and the one person who knows me and loves me for the person I am. With all my faults and all my strengths I know she will always be there for me. And those of you who have known me know that Friday nights at Grandma's is a big part of my life. So much so that I even asked that our New Member Orientation be at 8pm so I can make it to grandma's. I also extend that feeling of family to my friends. Someone once told me that your friend's are G-d's way of making up for your family. Well, sometimes that is true!
So please come
out and spend some time with your JWOT family in February. Our dinner meeting will be February 8th at 6:30pm at Scala Trattoria
Have a Lovely Valentine's Day!
A word from the External Vice President
First of all, I’d like to wish you all a healthy, peaceful and prosperous
new year 2010
Soldier Care – Operation One of our Own
We have teamed
up with other community 501c(3) Chapters to help with raising money for a young man from
Gift Auction/Fashion Show –this
event will take place at the
Volunteer Fair – was on Monday, January 18th at the Jackson Library.
A big “THANK YOU” to Kathy Muller who spent the day there on behalf of the JWOT handing out information on our Chapter as well as the Food Pantry and signing up potential new members.
Memorial Day Parade & Observance – I think it would be great if the JWOT were to march in this year’s parade, something to think about over the next couple of months. We are looking for a chair to help coordinate our participation.
Please take the time to review the External clip board at each meeting, we have a busy calendar and will need your support to make these events successful.
As always, thank you…………………….
Mary Ellen Grelis
NEW MEMBER ORIENTATION
First I want to say how happy we are to have so many new members joining Jackson Women of Today. You bring new ideas, energy, enthusiasm and spirit to this organization and we want to make sure that is nurtured. So, please come to our New Member Orientation on Friday January 29th.It will be a fun and informative evening. Vested members are also invited. It will be at 8pm and we ask that you bring an appetizer, dessert or drink. This will be at Vickie Vitale's home:
This get together also happens to fall between the dates of January 24-30 which is Family Week. Since Jackson Women of Today is somewhat of an extended family for many of us it ties in nicely with the goal of that week and that is...Spend some quality time with your family that week. Take some pictures to share with us. Tell us something about that experience; tell us about what your family means to you.
All my best,
What Does Family Mean to Me?
Coming from a large family with 7 children, family has always meant sharing, a lot of laughing and crying, good times and not so good ones, big holidays with all of us plus husbands (and or boyfriends) and nieces/nephews and plenty of home cooked traditional foods all day and night. It also means many weddings, birthdays, babies, graduations and more. I am currently the proud aunt of 15 nieces and nephews and 1- 3 yr.old great-nephew. I am very lucky to have great in-laws also and that both families all got along. Family is also about all the great recipes for traditional dishes (Italian of course) handed down from generation to generation, as I see my nieces and nephews now using them.
“WHAT DOES FAMILY MEAN TO ME"
When most people think of family, they think of blood relatives, such as brothers, sisters, parents, children, etc. When I think of family I think of a whole group of people that have come and gone in my life. These people have made me who I am today. I have learned to be independent and patient. I have learned to be strong for my children and to defend my beliefs. I have worked hard to get where I am today, so work ethics is a part of my life which I can credit to my hard working parents. I try to be less critical of others, but sometimes I fail, which is human. But putting the effort into not criticizing should count for something. We sometimes are more critical of family members than we are of friends or strangers if they do something to hurt us. That is not right, so forgiveness should be at the top of the list, depending on the severity of the problem. Now my blood family is a whole range of different ethnic, religious and political backgrounds. We always get along because we understand that is what family is all about. To understand each other is what is needed to sustain a common balance for peace. When your family is so diverse in many areas, you have to adapt. Otherwise you will lose out on many enjoyable family gatherings. I realized at a young age that family is important because no one is with us forever. People have come and gone through the years, so missing those that have gone, should bring the ones left behind closer. Having a strong bond in hard times and good times, can help you through a difficult situation. Caring for each other is a plus. Family is there to back you up. To keep you strong. To give advice when you need it or even when you do not want it. Family is good times and bad times. Time to share things and to tell stories of days gone by. To pass mementos on. To give important information to each other. To laugh and enjoy the company of each other. To fight and argue, but also view each others differences with an open mind and still remain on friendly terms. Family does not mean controlling someone, but helping them out through your own experiences that you gained in life. Family doesn't keep count of who did or didn't do something to your satisfaction. Family is formed through friendship and hope. Through a common goal or interests. Family is not always formed by blood. Family is formed through love, birth, marriage, adoption, friendship, through work and a purpose to achieve something that you feel is important. Getting together as often as you can, whether for 5 minutes or 5 hours or 5 days, is something that should be cherished. That is my idea of what family means to me. I could go on and on, because I love my family and all the different aspects that come with it. But keeping in mind that we are here for such a short time, makes you appreciate what you have today in your family!
“What family means to me."
A family means being together in good times and in bad times.
“What does family mean to me?”
Family is special! Caring and sharing and always being there for each other. Special memories will forever be with you. Vacations are a great opportunity to spend special times together. Family love leaves special feelings in the heart.
Have fun with family members!
Family. What does family mean to me? It means warmth, security and comfort. It means having a place to “be”. Be yourself, be among trust and be among love.
That is what “family” means to me now. That is not always what it meant to me. I will say merely that I did not have the best of childhoods. I left home at 16. Never did I have the parental support I now give my children. No one came to my concerts or cheered for me at events. I had to scrounge for rides and the money to participate in activities. I worked full time and put myself through college. I was married at 21 and Ken and I have raised our 4 children completely on our own. I will not go into any more detail than that because I really try not to dwell on the past or use “my parents” or “my childhood” as an excuse for vices or bad behavior even though I am sure that it is some of the reason for all of the choices I make. How can we spend the first 16 years of our life with our first introduction to trust and belonging and NOT have our experiences affect us whatever their quality?
My plan for my life was to graduate from college (I did) and work full-time at a high-profile accounting firm – make lots of money – and travel the world (I did not. I still plan to travel someday…). Ken and I were childhood sweethearts so I always knew I would marry him. I did not know we would have children – that was not part of my plan. It was, however, part of God’s plan. I felt ill-equipped to be a mother to one child and I ended up with 4. To top it off, I evaluated child-care facilities while pregnant for the first time – and that experience was the end of my career plans.
It makes me laugh now when I think of my past plans – and I suck in my breath and my heart stops beating when I think about those four children. Each is spirited, smart and talented. How did THAT happen? I will admit that my mothering techniques have been ,at times, “unique”. I have definitely felt that I had no idea what I was doing. But they turned out ok! Better than ok! We have moved from the phases of “caretaking” and “disciplining” to more “mentoring”, “supporting” and “guiding”. My oldest daughter (now almost the same age I was when I was married!)- has frequently “hated me” and two seconds later loved me – has become more of a companion and a friend.
There was a time in my life when I longed for a family. A time when I wished there was someone out there who had made me their first priority – and considered me their precious gift. There were many lonely holidays and empty dinner plates. Now I have what I always wanted. Our date book is full of soccer games, concerts and plays. Our refrigerator is empty. Our table is full. Sometimes, there are so many people in my house that I cannot hear myself think. When it is almost too much to bear and I want everyone to be quiet – I remember what that quiet was like.
So, “family” to me now means many things. It means people to care for and love. It means voices around the dinner table and watching a winter movie and a lazy day at the beach together. It means girls ‘days out and boys’ camping trips. It means my children will never have to be alone or lonely. It is the best of all things.
JAN 29 NEW MEMBER ORIENTATION – 8 PM – VICKIE
FEB 8 GENERAL MEMBERSHIP DINNER MEETING
FEB 13 SATURDAY STOCKING 9-1
FEB 23 STOCKING
FEB 24 WEDNESDAY
FEB 25 THURSDAY
FEB 27 SORTING
Save the date:
FEB (TBA) FAMILY BOWLING
MARCH 19 GIFT AUCTION
MARCH (TBA) PANCAKE BREAKFAST
According to the By-laws, a nominating committee shall be formed at the regular February meeting and shall consist of the Chair of the Board and other members appointed by the Chair of the Board.
No member of the nominating committee can be a candidate for office by action of the nominating committee. A nominating committee member may be nominated from the floor.
This committee shall announce at least one nominee for each office at the March meeting. Additional names may be placed in nomination from the floor at this meeting.
The election of officers shall take place during the April meeting.
Eligibility to run for office shall be limited to those members in good standing who belong to this organization for at least 6 months prior to elections and who have attended 50% of the 6 meetings. All presidential candidates must have served one year on the Executive Board.
State/National Director-Vickie Vitale
Note: Please make sure to read thru as there
is some very important info for yearend that
you don’t want to miss!!!
I want to just send out a reminder for filling out your programming certifications for the remainder of the year. With only 3 months left to go in the year, it’s never too early to get your paper work in for awards. Please also remember that I issued “A CHALLENGE” for all JWOT, back in September which involves a FREE gift card and goodie bag if you complete all the areas, or most of them. So please take the time to read all the info below and I will be resending the certification areas by email in case you missed a meeting when they were presented. Also, if you would like to complete any of the Personal Enrichment areas missed, I will send you a questionnaire to complete. So let’s get your certs in so we can bring home many awards for Yearend! Last Chance to compete for awards!
The 2009-2010 year has been in full swing for the NJ Women of Today with many events and fundraisers taking place in the community. Just remember that everything you do with the Jackson Women, whether it is at a meeting, a social, or out in the community will apply toward any of the areas for certifications (the Personal Enrichment 5 areas-effective writing and speaking, team building, effective listening, and leadership; Focus on Women, Chaplain, and the STEP I, II, III areas). If you have any questions regarding these areas and certifying, please drop me a line (email@example.com or phone). Also, as an added benefit, many of the tasks you perform at home, on the job, or at your local clubs, churches and schools also qualify for certification areas.
So please take a minute to jot down some of these tasks and create a list, along with the JW calendar so you have information at hand, to fill in the certification forms. The programming team and I will be going over the areas at each meeting as the “emphasis” months occur (which means, each month is assigned an area on the national JWOT calendar, i.e. Oct. = Chaplain). Remember these forms are also your record of YOUR accomplishments in JW and the community! Please contact me, Vickie, for forms and info and I will help you complete fast and easy. It really is an easy thing to do!
THE YEAREND CHALLENGE FOR ALL!! So you think certifications are boring; don’t have time to fill out the forms, or just don’t care???? Well you may just care once you read about this year’s challenge for Year End awards!
For those of you that fill out the forms and try and complete all the required areas, there will be a gift incentive (gift bag filled with lovely gifts worth up to $25) given to ANYONE who have the most areas completed. Those with less completed certs will also receive a gift incentive. That means, the Areas listed in paragraph 1: personal enrichment 5, FOW, Chaplain, STEP (any area). Anyone completing all the Areas, including a Project Recognition report with completed File Folder, will receive a special gift card worth up to $25 (of your choice from a select list), in addition to a gift bag!! So let’s get going and get your paperwork in, whether it’s online or in person. Everyone wants a “free” gift!!!
These incentives for certifications will run from September 1st to May 1st, 2010. So let’s get going fellow members, as the competition starts NOW!!! PLEASE NOTE: ALL PAPERWORK AND PROJECT RECOGNITION REPORTS ARE DUE TO ME BEFORE APRIL 27TH, 2010 FOR MAILING TO NATIONAL.
One last note,
Congratulations to those members (4 so far and Counting?) that have completed all the certification areas. Don’t forget your OAP’s that cover all the area’s and need to also be turned in to finish
the NJ challenge. So please keep challenging yourselves through “participation
and certifications” as you may be the next award recipient of the
Good luck to everyone!
PROGRAMMING YEAREND SCHEDULE TO BE COMPLETED
First, all certification forms, in all areas, due to Vickie Vitale by April 27th in order to postmark to national staff by April 30th. This allows me time to go over all the forms and make sure all dates, names and chapter info are correct for submission. Please follow all requirements and check and recheck for correct info and attachments allowed.
- STEP I, II, III (Emphasis months or yearend)
- Focus on Women (Emphasis months or yearend)
- Chaplain (Emphasis month or yearend)
- Personal Enrichmt.Areas: Exercises for Team Bldg, Leadership, Listening, Effective Writing/Speaking (done at meetings only during EM, except Eff.Speaking)
- FOW Essay Stat Sheet
- Effective Writing/Speaking Forms and Stat Sheet for competition
- STEP II & III Resume Forms (Info Below Also)
- Project Recognition report outlines, requirements, and STAT Sheet
- Feb. 2010 – National Charity Buckets of Sunshine, Extensions, Ext.Area DV
- March 2010 – STEP areas (Phyllis Lewis) (last 2 months to submit, sign a member and complete all requiremts); Membership, USWT Foundation.
- April 2010 – PE Area: Effective Listening (Marsha Wydra); Volunteer recognition, Ext. Area DV (last Time).
S.T. E. P. NATIONAL YEAR END COMPETITIONS 2008-2009
AS JWOT/USWT MEMBERS, I ENCOURAGE YOU TO COMPETE IN THE STEP II RESUME COMPETITION, IF YOU HAVE BEEN A MEMBER UNDER 1 YEAR. JUST FIND THE FORM ON THE uswt.org SITE OR CONTACT VICKIE FOR THE FORMS. IT IS SIMPLE TO DO AS IT IS JUST ABOUT YOUR INVOLVEMENT IN WOT AND YOUR COMMUNITY/PERSONAL LIFE. ALL FEES ARE PAID FOR BY NJWT. GO FOR IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS! AWARDS ARE WAITING FOR THE NJWOT!! GOOD LUCK…..Vickie V.
STEP II: Resume’ (ONLY) – see USWT forms
Does not require attendance at National Convention
For members who have belonged to Women of Today for 12 mos. or less. Great opportunity for 1st year members to receive recognition for their hard work.
Guidelines: Copy of completed STEP II Certification Form
4 Copies of STEP II Resume, not to exceed three (3) typed pages, securely fastened
Must use 12 point font size
Letter of Recommendation
Cost: $5.00 – payable to USWT
Deadline: May 1, 2009 postmarked
Submit to National STEP PM (Vickie Vitale,
STEP III: Resume’ and Oral Interview
Requires Attendance at National Year End Convention for Oral Interview in June.
For members who have belonged to WT for over a year, and for any past member in good standing that leaves organization for any length of time and rejoins at a later date.
Guidelines: Copy of completed STEP III Certification form
4 Copies of STEP III Resume, not to exceed ten (10) typed pages, securely fastened
Must use 12 point font size
Letter of recommendation
Competitor will be asked to recite USWT Creed at competition
Cost: $5.00 - payable to USWT
Deadline: May 1, 2009 postmarked
Submit to National STEP PM (Kim Troudt, 3506 22nd Ave,
YEAR-END ESSAY COMPETITIONS - NATIONAL 2010
FOCUS ON WOMEN
National Year End Competition
Essay Topic: How I Make a Difference When I Share My Spirit!
Guidelines: 800 - 1200 words; typed, double spaced; send 4 copies with 4 stat sheets - each copy in a binder or folder
Does not require attendance at National Convention
Cost: $5.00 - payable to USWT
Deadline: May 1, 2009 postmark
Submit to National FOW/Chaplain PM (Cindy Umland,
I would like to thank the ladies and gentleman who attended the project.
We were joined by a guest that enjoys the JWOT and we were also joined by members from the
Chair of the Board
Creed – We, the United States Women of Today, are dedicated to serving our community and nation, are committed to strengthening our individual talents, and stand united by our friendship and belief in the future.
USWT has 15 Board members.
Chapters in 12 states; Illinois, Iowa, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, Nebraska, New Jersey, North Dakota, Pennsylvania, South Dakota, Wisconsin.
Sister States; Michigan-Illinois-Iowa, Wisconsin- Minnesota- Massachusetts, New Jersey-Nebraska- South Dakota, North Dakota-Pennslyvania-Missouri.
Diane Stanaway, President
Diana Fraundorfer, Executive Vice President
Suzanne Rogalsky, Treasurer
Christine Sheridan, Corresponding Secretary
Pat Rhein, Chair of the Board
New Jersey has 3 chapters; Edgewater Park, Jackson, North Jersey
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